My husband and I just finished reading this book:
Well, I read it and my husband "listened" to it. hehe. We both loved it. The book explains the 5 basic love languages and how to learn to speak your spouse's love language. Once you can speak their language, filling up their "love tank" is easy and you will have a happily-ever-after marriage. Ok, maybe not happily-ever-after, but definitely better.
The 5 love languages are:
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
My love language is Words of Affirmation. I can definitely see where I "fish" for compliments now that I'm aware of it. My husband's is Physical Touch (duh, he's a man) and Quality Time. Our boys' languages are blatanly obvious since kids hide nothing. J's is Quality Time and M's is Physical Touch. J is constantly badgering everyone to play and hang out with him. He has a hard time being alone at all and it's difficult to get him to spend even 30 minutes of quiet time alone. M constantly wants to be picked up or held or sit on your lap. He gives the best hugs and gives them readily.
Learning the boys' love languages has helped me more than learning my husband's. (though that has definitely helped too) Now I'm not as annoyed when J CONSTANTLY wants to be by my side, especially when I need to use the bathroom or some other private activity. hehe I love hugging M even more and pick him up almost every time he asks instead of telling him "not right now". The same author wrote another book specifically about children, so I am going to get that one from the library to read as well.
Maybe it's all a bunch of hooey, but it's seems to be working for our family, so we're sticking with it. :)
This book sounds great! I think everyone in our family could use it too. Not sure I could get my husband to read it or listen, but I guess I could pass along what I read to him. :) Thanks for sharing!
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